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Cultivate Positive Thinking Habits (2): Break out from set thinking patterns

Ready… Get Set… Stuck.

How many times have we got ourselves into a situation, ready to confront an issue, but end up feeling stuck? Or when faced with a complex problem, and after applying all known formulas to it, we are still stuck?

Sir Ken Robinson was quoted, “we don’t grow into creativity, we grow out of it. Or rather… We get educated out of it.”

Education has the purpose of imparting knowledge and understanding of the known world to us, allowing us to make more informed decisions as well as having the assurance of “what is right”. Yet it seems that in the course of education, our innate ability to ask “why” and “why not” has faded away and our mind has started to become guided by a certain set of beliefs about the things around us. We start to have a certain set of beliefs about learning, about leadership, about creativity, about life, etc.

PhD Carol Dweck’s Mindset talks about how we could either have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. In fixed mindsets, people believe that everything about them and others are set. A successful person has always been successful all his life and a failure’s life is all about failures. And we know that there are limitations to having a fixed mindset. Creativity and growth is stifled and our perception of others has not much room for negotiation.

Break out from your set thinking patterns into growth mindsets using your personality strengths. If you are open and inquisitive, use that advantage to explore new areas of knowledge and opportunities to integrate with your existing situation. If you are naturally more questioning, use that to question the way things are and enjoy a good debate with your friends about the issues on hand. If you are more latent and more reserved in nature, use your naturally ability to listen and be moved by inspirational stories.

With a growth mindset, the best is yet to be.

Morphos coaching employs growth mindset where we believe that there can be progression wherever you are and that the best is yet to be. By becoming your mirror to allow for self-reflection, you will find that you will be unstuck. The problems and complications you are facing now, be it for yourself or for your team, will soon find a creative resolution.

Break out from your set thinking patterns, adopt growth.

Cultivate Positive Thinking Habits (1): Get Rid of Prejudices

In the 21st Century, where the effect of globalisation has hit the shores of every nation, every community, the ability to handle diversity soon became a highly-sought after skill in leaders everywhere.

In face of such diversity, are we truly able to accept the differences? Can we celebrate the differences? Are we really free of prejudices?

Interpersonal relations often begin with finding a common point, and building the relationship from there. If we have formed certain opinions beforehand, chances are that we would tend to focus on the differences rather than the common points. Be it within family members or corporate teams, we need to be careful of our thoughts, are we focusing on the ties that bind or the gap between people?

Searching for the common point between people has brought Sophia from one tool to another, from DISC, MBTI, TJTA, to PEAKS, which is the tool of choice. Personality forms a the core of  a person, behaviour, attitudes, cognition, personal values, are all closely related to a person’s personality and PEAKS is by far the best tool to describe it.

Based on the five-factor model, created through multiple iterations and factor analysis, PEAKS takes a snapshot of a person’s inner self using terms which are simple to understand and easy to apply. Using PEAKS, a person can be understood based on:

P- purpose: how the person relates to tasks
E – energy: how the person relates to relationships
A – affirmation: how the person relates to authority
K – knowledge: how the person relates to change
S – sustainability: how sensitive the person is to stress

By using such a tool which captures the universal traits of a person, we can then figure out the common points in a shorter time, helping to get rid of prejudices, allowing relationships to be established and developed. Using this tool, leaders have found it easier to understand the diversity surrounding them to build the relationships that matter.

One of the most influential early Christian missionary, Paul, once wrote: “For though I am free from all men, I have made myself a servant to all, that I might win the more; … to the weak I became as weak, that I might win the weak. I have become all things to all men, that I might by all means save some.” (1 Cor 9:19,22 NKJV)

Cultivate Positive Thinking Habits

King Solomon, probably the wisest king throughout history, left us with these words, “don’t eat with people who are stingy; don’t desire their delicacies. They are always thinking about how much it costs. “Eat and drink,” they say, but they don’t mean it.”

Our mind is the basic element of life, causing us to act or feel in a certain way. If one constantly think about the cost, no matter how much of an outward appearance we try to put up, it is hypocrisy at best. Yet, we know many who live life in a similar way, having their speech and actions inconsistent with their thoughts.

In our pursuit for a more wholesome life with a character worth telling our children about, we need to cultivate positive thinking habits. As the Chinese saying goes, it is easy to learn bad habits, but it is very difficult to learn good ones. Cultivating positive thinking requires toil and effort before we can reap the fruit of fulfillment and integrity.

Similar to cultivation in the field, the first step is to toil the soil, removing the rocks and the loosening the soil. In order to do that, we have to:

1) Get rid of prejudices

2) Break out from set thinking patterns

3) Challenge and control twisted thoughts

It is only with loosening the soil, which we can then go further to thought renewal processes.

Empowerment: the answer within you

Empowerment is about finding the answer within yourself and helping you to implement it.

Empowerment works because that is the most natural you, and that the solution is the most effective for the situation, in which you know best.